Assuming The Best
Have you ever been written off by someone—or worse, written someone else off—only to realize later that your assumptions were wrong? What might have been possible if you had looked at the situation differently?
Our personal values are important. They define the behaviors we aspire to uphold as we go about living.
One of mine, ‘Assume the Best’, is one I’ve found to be incredibly important when working with struggling leadership teams.
Why?
- Because years of frustration and disappointment can trap us in ruts, reinforced by those we spend the most time with—sometimes knowingly, sometimes not.
- Because our understanding of others is limited to the narrow lens of our own experiences with them.
- Because I’ve been shown that same grace, and it gave me hope.
But, not just because of these. Also…
- Because it acknowledges people are capable of changing and growing.
- Because sometimes I haven’t set someone up for success.
- Because sometimes they lack information, maybe even key information, that impacts their perception and decisions.
I once worked with a senior leader who was highly qualified, deeply caring, and an incredibly hard worker. But despite their strengths, they had unintentionally become a roadblock for their team. Every new idea seemed to hit the same brick wall: “That won’t work because…” Slowly, their team’s energy and creativity drained away.
I remember one particular meeting where their objections once again derailed a discussion. But as I listened more closely, I realized their resistance wasn’t about negativity—it was about their drive for clarity and perfection. This wasn’t someone trying to sabotage progress; it was someone who cared deeply but had no idea how their approach impacted others.
Assuming the Best means calling someone to something bigger and giving them the opportunity to step up. It was time to lean in.
What followed wasn’t easy. It required hard, candid conversations and a shared commitment to improvement. But this leader rose to the challenge. They shifted from blocking progress to championing it. Their team thrived under their mentorship, and they became a cornerstone of our success—fostering creativity and collaboration in ways that once felt impossible.
For me, “Assume the Best” is an invitation to be curious. To pause and ask: Who is this person? What are they capable of? How can I help them rise?
It’s a call to invite others to step up, build something greater together, and unlock the unique magic they bring to the table.
Is your team stuck? Are you ready to unlock your next phase of growth? Let’s connect—I’d love to help.






